allahswtsavedus:

By: Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-‘Uthaimeen

We mentioned previously that good manners can either be present in someone naturally or they can be instilled into him (i.e. through learning). And we stated that inherent good manners are better than acquired good manners. We mentioned a proof for this which was the Messenger of Allaah’s (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) statement to Al-Ashaj bin ‘Abdil-Qais (radyAllaahu ‘anhu): “Rather, Allaah has molded (i.e. created) you upon these two (noble characteristics).” [1]

It is also because good manners that are innate do not disappear from a human being whereas good manners that are acquired may vanish from a person in many instances since it requires constant practice and effort as well as exercise and hard work. It also requires that one be reminded of it whenever there occurs something that affects a human being. This is why when a man once came to the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and said to him: “O Messenger of Allaah, advise me”, he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Do not get angry.” The man then repeated his request several times, upon which the Prophet continued to reply: “Do not get angry.” [2] 

The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said: “The strong person is not the one who wrestles and overpowers his opponents. Rather the strong person is the one who controls himself in times of anger.” [3] 

So a strong person is not someone who wrestles with people and overpowers them, He is someone “who controls himself in times of anger.” He takes hold of himself and restrains himself during instances when he becomes angry. 

A person controlling himself in times of anger is considered a characteristic of good manners. So if you become angry, do not let your anger penetrate, rather seek refuge in Allaah from the accursed Devil. And if you are standing, then sit down. If you are sitting, then lie down. And if your anger increases, then perform ablution (wudoo) until it goes away. 

A person may acquire and earn good manners by way of training (himself), working hard at it and through constant practice. So he may obtain good manners through one of the following methods: 

First: By contemplating on the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger: One should look up the texts that show the virtue of the particular noble characteristic that he wishes to characterize himself with. This is since when a believer sees some texts that praise a characteristic or action, he implements them. [4] 

The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) indicated this when he said: “The example of a good companion and an evil companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk either sells you (perfume), gives you free samples or you get a pleasing smell from him. As for the example of an evil companion – such as a blacksmith – he either burns your clothes or you get a nasty smell from him.” [5] 

Second: He should accompany those who are known for having good manners whilst staying far away from those who possess bad manners and poor actions. This is such that he turns this companionship of his into an educational institute that assists him in (his goal of) obtaining good manners. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as a close friend.” [6] 

Third: He should reflect on the consequences that come as a result of having bad manners. This is since a person with bad manners is despised. A person with bad manners is forsaken. A person with bad manners is always talked about in a bad way. So when one comes to realize that bad manners will lead him to all of this, he will then keep away from it. 

Fourth: He should always envision an image of the Prophet’s (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) manners and how he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would humble himself before the creation, being kind to them, forgiving to them and patient with their harm. So if a person visualizes the Prophet’s character and the fact that he was the best of mankind and the greatest of those who worshipped Allaah, he will then perceive a low image of himself and at this point the influence that arrogance has over him will be shattered and this will cause him to have good manners. 

Footnotes: 

[1] Reported by Abu Dawood (no. 5335), Ahmad in al-Musnad (4/206), Muslim with only the first part of it (no. 25 & 26), and At-Tirmidhee (no. 2011) 

[2] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 6116) and At-Tirmidhee (no. 2020) 

[3] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 6114) and Muslim (no. 107) 

[4] Purification (of the soul) cannot be achieved except by way of the messengers as stated by Ibn Al-Qayyim when he said: “Purifying the souls is harder and more difficult than curing the bodies. So whoever purifies his soul through exercise, hard work and being in isolation – all of which the messengers did not come with – he is like a sick person that tries to cure himself based on his own opinion. Where is his opinion with respect to the expertise of a doctor?! The messengers are the doctors of the hearts – there is no way to purify and rectify the hearts except through their way, at their hands and by totally submitting and complying with them. And we ask Allaah for His assistance!” [Madaarij-us-Saalikeen (2/300)] 

[5] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 2101 & 5534) and Muslim (no. 146); An-Nawawee said: “This shows the virtue of accompanying righteous and good people – those who possess chivalry, good manners, piety, knowledge, and good behavior. It also shows the prohibition of accompanying evil people, innovators, and those who backbite people or who are very wicked and so on, i.e. other types of condemnable characteristics.” [See Sharh Saheeh Muslim: (16/394)] 

[6] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (no. 2378) who said it was hasan saheeh, Abu Dawood (no. 4833), Ahmad in al-Musnad (2/303, 334) and deemed hasan (sound) by Al-Albaanee in Saheeh-ul-Jaami’ as-Sagheer (no. 3545) and Silsilat-ul-Ahaadeeth as-Saheehah (no. 927). 

nonchalante:

“How many of us would be able to overcome our desires and resist the temptation of sin? How many of us even lower our gaze when we look upon something that we are not supposed to? The real prisoner is the one whose heart has been kept away from remembering his Lord, and the real captive is the one who has been captivated by his whims and desires.”

Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah [d.728H]

umerrr:

The Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“A Muslim owes six obligations towards another Muslim:

1. when you meet him (or her), salute him (or her) saying ‘Assalamu Alaikum’;

2. when he (or she) invites you, accept his (or her) invitation;

3. when he (or she) solicits your advice, advise him (or her) sincerely;

4. when he (or she) sneezes and praises Allah, respond with the supplication Yarhamuk Allah (may Allah have mercy on you);

5. when he (or she) falls sick, visit him (or her);

6. when on his (or her) death, join his (or her) funeral.”

[Sahih Muslim]

May Allah help us fulfill our obligations and grant us love for the sake of Allah for one another.

hakuna-mataataa:

• Cursing is prohibited
• Nicknaming is prohibited
• Calling a Muslim, a disbeliever is prohibited
• Despising is prohibited
• Lying in-joke is prohibited
• Defaming someone’s lineage is prohibited
• Recounting one’s favors is prohibited
• Addressing someone as, ‘The King of Kings’ is prohibited
• Reviling Fever is prohibited
• Swearing in the name of anything besides Allah is prohibited
• Cursing the Wind is prohibited / Reviling the Rooster
• Praising a Person in his Presence is Undesirable
• Saying, ‘If only such and such…’ when some adversity befalls is forbidden
• Attributing Rain to the Stars is prohibited
• Saying: ‘Forgive me, if you wish, O Allah!’ is prohibited
• Pretentiousness and Exaggeration during Conversation is undesirable
• Describing other women’s charms to one’s husband is prohibited
• Saying: ‘What Allah Wills and so-and-so wills’ is prohibited
• Whoever curses time has wronged Allah
• Making fun of anything in which Allah, the Qur’aan or the Messenger is mentioned leads to disbelief whether one intends it or not
• To say, ‘this wealth is the result of my labor and knowledge’ is prohibited

adailysmiler:

The one who ends conversations quickly.

The one who looks away when guys talk to her.

The one who stays away from all physical contact.

She doesn’t talk inappropriately.

She covers properly.

She loves Allah more than anything else.

The one who knows when to let things go. 

The one who knows how to handle arguments.

The one who doesn’t lose her temper too quickly.

Loving. Passionate. Understanding. Careful. Intelligent. 

She is the one. 

salafi-saurusrexie:

1.  Make Her Comfortable

• The husband should try to make the wife comfortable by presenting her a drink or a sweet.
• Narrated Imam Ahmad from the hadith of Asmaa bint Yazeed ibn al-Sakin who said:  I prepared and beautiful Aishah for the Messenger of Allah (saw). Then he came and I called him to see her in all her beauty. He came and sat next to her. He was brought a large cup that contained milk. He drank and then handed it to her. She lowered her head and was shy. Asmaa then said: I rebuked her and told her to take it from the hand of the Messenger of Allah (saw). She took it and drank some.” Al-Musnad, vol. 6, pp 438, 452, 453, 458.

2.  Du’a

• The husband should then put his hand on her head and make du’a over her.
• The Prophet (saw) said, “If any one of you marries a woman or buys a servant, he should take her by the forelock, mention Allah’s name [saying, ‘In the name of Allah’] and pray blessings by saying, ‘O Allah, I ask you for her good and the good of what you have dispositioned her toward and I seek refuge from her evil and the evil you have dispositioned her toward.’”  Bukhari in Khalaq Afaal al-Ibaad, pg. 22

3.  Rakat

• The husband should pray two rakats with her.
• Abu Saeed, the slave of Abu Usaid, said, “I married while I was a slave. I invited a number of the Companions of the Prophet (saw) including ibn Masood, Abu Dharr, and Hudhaifah. The iqaamah for the prayer was given and Abu Dharr stepped forward to lead the prayer. They said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Is it like this?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ So I led them in prayer while I was an owned slave. They taught me by saying, “When your wife comes to you, pray two rakats and then ask for the good of what has come to you and seek refuge from its evil. Then it is your affair and your wife’s affair.” Shaikh al-Albanee in Adaab al-Zifaaf, pg. 94.

4.  Before the husband comes to his wife, it’s recommended to brush his teeth. The same also goes for the wife. Use a miswaak, a toothpick, or toothbrush and paste.

If the man wants to have intercourse with his wife, he should say “In the name of Allah, O Allah, ward off Shaytan from us and ward off from Shaytan what You grant us.”

• The Prophet (saw) stated at the end of the hadith, “Then if Allah decrees that they should have a child, Shaytan will never harm him.” al-Bukhari, 5165.

5.  The man is to only enter in through her vagina.

• In Muslim, recorded as Sahih on the authority of Jaabir who said:  The Jews would say that if a man came to his wife from behind but through the vagina, the child would be cross-eyed.  Then the verse was revealed, “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go into your tilth when and how you please.” al-Baqarah 223 and in Muslim, 1435, The Book of Marriage
• In a narration recorded by al-Tirmidhi, ibn Abbaas stated, “From the front and from the back, but stay away from the anus and [while the woman is] menstruating.” Al-Sunan, 2984, Book of Tafseer.
• In a narration recorded by Abu Dawood, ibn Umar stated in explaining the aforementioned verse, “From in front, from behind or lying on the backs, meaning through the place of the delivery of the child.” Al-Sunan, 2164, Book on Marriage.
• “Whoever has intercourse with a menstruating woman or with a woman through the anus has committed disbelief in what has been revealed to Muhammad.” Recorded by al-Nasaai in Ishrah al-Nisaa #130; Abu Dawood, 3904, Book on Medicine.

6.  Foreplay

• It is recommended for the husband to have foreplay with his wife before sexual intercourse.
• In Sahih al-Bukhari of the hadith of Jaabir, it states that when he got married, the Prophet (saw) asked him if he married a virgin or a non-virgin. He replied that she was a non-virgin.  The Prophet (saw) then told him, “Why didn’t you marry a virgin [from among the young women who stay in seclusion] such that you may ‘kiss with her.’” Sahih al-Bukhari, 5080, The Book of Marriage.

7.  Having Intercourse Again

• If the husband wants to have intercourse again, he should make ablution. It’s sunnah.
• “If one of you has gone to his wife [and had sexual intercourse] and he wishes to repeat the act, he should [first] make ablution.”  Recorded by Muslim, 308, the Book on Menstruation.

8.  Sleeping in the Same Clothes

• It is allowed to sleep in the same clothes in which they had sexual intercourse. This is only after removing any bodily fluid with a rag from the body. They may even pray in the clothing if they want to, but as long as their bodies are clean. It is suggested to make ablution regardless before sleeping.
• Aishah said, “If a woman is intelligent, she should have a rag with her. If her husband has sexual intercourse with her, she gives it to him to wipe himself off and then she wipes herself off. Then they can pray in their clothing as long as no sexual fluid had come upon it.” Recorded by al-Baihaqi, vol. 2, p. 411.
• Muawiyah ibn Abu Sufyaan (may Allah be please with him) asked his sister [and one of the wives of the Prophet (saw)], Umm Habeebah (may Allah be pleased with her), “Would the Messenger of Allah (saw) pray in the same clothing in which he had sexual intercourse with you?” She said, “Yes, if he did not see anything harmful [impure] on it.” Abu Dawood, 366; al-Nasaai, vol. 1, p. 155.

salafi-saurusrexie:

1.  Treating the Wife in a Kind and Good Manner

• The husband should accompany the wife in a good way, keeping harm away from her, not delaying in fulfilling their rights, and demonstrating pleasure and happiness with her (or them, but in thise case, I’m going to use the singular “her”).
• And treat them in a good and kind manner. al-Nisaa 19.
• And they have the rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable. al-Baqara 228.
• The wife is not the only person within the household to beautify herself for her husband. Ibn Abbaas stated, “I love to beautify myself for the wife in the same way that I love for her to beautify herself for me because Allah has said, ‘And they have rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable’”
• The husband should be kind and gentle with her and not harm her.  No matter what kinds of problems arises, whether it is her fault or his, he should treat her kindly and be reasonable.
• The Prophet (saw) alluded to this behaviour when he said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman since if he dislikes one of her characters, he is pleased with another.”  Muslim, 1469, Book on Virtues.
• The husband should not hurt his wife with actions or speech.
• The Prophet (saw) was asked by one of the Companions, “What is the right of our wives upon us?” He replied, “it is that when you eat, you feed her; when you get clothing for yourself, you get clothing for her; do not strike the face; do not swear at her; and do not boycott her except in the house.” Abu Dawood, 2142, Book on Marriage.

2.  Teaching Her the Matters of the Religion and Supporting Her in Acts of Obedience to Allah

• The husband should teach his wife if she is ignorant and reminds her if she forgets. He should support her and helps her remember what needs to be done. The most important is to maintain the proper belief in the oneness of Allah (tawheed) and the beliefs and practices of the early generations of Muslims.
• “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones.” al-Tahreem 6.
• Ibn Umar narrated that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “Man is responsible over his family and he will be asked about his responsibility.” Part of hadith in al-Bukhari, 5188, Book on Marriage.
• The husband should also teach his wife good manners and characteristics, to protect her modesty, and feel honour with respect to her and when she follows through with these acts.

3.  Maintaining Her Chastity

• Such as men, women also have natural desires  Men should comply with them so she will keep herself from doing anything forbidden. One of the acts of keeping her chastity is to abstain from sexual intercourse: “Those who take an oath not to have sexual intercourse with their wives must wait for four months, but if they return [during this period], then Allah is forgiving, merciful.”  al-Baqarah 226.

4.  Financially Maintaining the Wife

• Fiancially supporting her is a necessary right of the wife. It is also in accordance with food, clothing, and housing.
• “The father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear.” al-Baqarah 233.
• The Prophet (saw) said, “Fear Allah with respect to women.  You have taken them by the trust with Allah and have made their private parts permissible by the word of Allah… Their rights upon you are that you provide for them and clothe them according to what is right and customary.” Muslim, Sahih, 1218, Book on the Pilgrimage.
• The husband is obligated to spend on his wife and children for what is sufficient. This also indicated that the wife may take from her husband’s wealth if he refuses to give her what she needs, even if she does it without his knowledge as long as it is a reasonable amount.
• The wife should not ask for numerous requests. She should be satisfied and happy with what her husband is giving her.
• “The first thing that destroyed the Tribes of Israel is when the wife of a poor person would burden him for clothing or fashion like the way the wife of a rich man would burden him.” ibn Khuzaimah in al-Tauheed, 208.

It was brought up during the halaqa as, “Is it true that the Qur’an states that it is okay to beat your wife?”

No, it is not alright to beat your wife.

This is what Surah al-Nisaa ayah 34 says, which is ALWAYS taken out of context:  “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given them one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard.  As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, do not seek against them means (of annoyance):  for Allah is Most High, Great (above you all).”

Firstly, “men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given them one more strength than the other.” Specifically, men had to pull their weight in the time of the Prophet (saw) because many of them were farmers, tradesmen, fishermen, etc. Just like back in the Biblical times. So yes, they were indeed stronger than women. Also, men ARE our protectors and they ARE the ones who usually have the job to support the families.

Secondly, “admonish them first”. They are allowed to verbally excuse us from our presence. This is in no way “beating” us. And it is stated that they (the men) should not be verbally abuse us. This does not mean that the husband will not be harsh or aggressive with words, but they should watch how they handle the situation.

Thirdly, “refuse to share the bed.” The husband has a right to either a.) leave the bed and sleep elsewhere in the house hold, b.) refuse to have sexual intercourse with her, c.) to keep his distance in bed, or d.) have his wife sleep elsewhere in the household.

Fourth, “beat them lightly.” Lightly is the key word here. A brother had a question about the beating the wife bit, and it is suggested that men can tap their wives with a miswaak. In other cases, he can tap her hand, her shoulder, her back (such as you would “strike” a child when they grabbed that cookie out of the jar that you didn’t want them to have).  In no way does it say, “take up a fist and beat your women” or anything of the sort.

Allahu alim.

May Allah (swt) make the men pious and grateful husbands.

salafi-saurusrexie:

1.  Obedience

• Husain ibn Muhsin narrated:  My aunt narrated to me that she said, “I came to the Messenger of Allah (saw) and he said, ‘Are you married?’  I said, ‘Yes.’  He said, ‘How are you with respect to him?’  She said, ‘I do not fail him in anything except for what I am not able to do.’  He said, ‘See how you are with respect to him for he is your Paradise or your Hell-Fire.’” Recorded by al-Nasaai in Ishrah al-Nisaa, pp. 1067-109.
• Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “If the woman prayed her five daily prayers, guarded her chastity and obeyed her husband, she will enter Paradise through any gate she wills.” Recorded by ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh, 4163, The Book of Marriage.
• The woman must obey what her husband says, but only if things are good and acceptable.  If it is something forbidden, she has every right to object to it and she MUST refuse to obey him.
• The Prophet (saw) has said, “There is no obeisance in what is an act of disobedience to Allah. Obedience is only with respect to what is good and acceptable (maroof).” Recorded by al-Bukhari, 4340, Book on Military Expeditions

2.  Remaining in the House and Not Going out Except with the Husband’s Permission

• “And stay in your houses and do not display yourselves like that during the times of Ignorance.”  al-Ahzaab 33.
• Allah (swt) has ordered the wives of the Prophet (saw) and the women in general to stay in their houses as a means of protection. It is also a way of guarding the rights of their husbands.
• Sheikh al-Islam ibn Taimiyah stated, “It is not allowed for a wife to leave her house except by the permission of her husband.  It is not allowed for anyone to take her from him or to prevent her from going to him, even if she be a nursing mother, midwife, or of any other type of occupation. If she leaves the house of her husband without his permission, she is being recalcitrant (naashizah), and disobedient to Allah and His Messenger and deserving of punishment.” Majmoo al-Fatawaa, vol. 32, p. 281

As a note: Although in ahadith and Qur’an states that if a woman asks to go to the masjid, she should not be refused that right as long as she does not have any prior obligations to the household (and yes, we know that it is better for the woman to stay at home and make salah there). However, in due respect to the husband, please ask his permission as a means of gaining trust and respect with each other.  Allahu alim.

3.  Responding to His Call When He Calls Her to His Bed.

• It is obligatory upon her to respond without delay, even if she does need to have sexual intercourse.
• “By the One in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, a woman does not fulfill the rights of her Lord until she fulfills the rights of her husband. Even if he calls her [to have sexual intercourse with her] while she is on a camel’s saddle, she does not refuse him.” Ahmad, vol. 4, p. 381
• If she refuses, the angels will curse her until morning. The Prophet (saw) said, “If a woman spends the night boycotting the bed of her husband, the angels curse her until the morning.” al-Bukhari in his Sahih, 5194, Book on Marriage.

It was brought up during the halaqa “What if the woman is sick, does she still need to go to her husband and ‘do it?’” As stated earlier, it is obligatory. If he knows you are sick, may Allah (swt) have mercy on you and make him understanding.

Also, if you are menstruating or just had a baby, you have the right to refuse sexual intercourse because your blood is considered najis (impure). Post-partum bleeding is a waiting period of about 40 days (or so).

During Ramadan, you have a right to refuse sexual intercourse with him during the day and the fasting period because Ramadan is a time to stay away from urges (eating, drinking, smoking, sexual desires, etc.).

4.  Not Allowing Anyone to Enter His House Except With His Permission

• The Prophet (saw) said, “And your right upon them is that they do not allow anyone whom you dislike to sit on your cushion.”  Muslim, Sahih, 1218, Book on the Pilgrimage.
• According to al-Nawawi, if the husband does not like the non-relative, if the person is a woman, or one of the wife’s relatives, regardless of the husband’s relationship to them, he may refuse them to enter the home. The wife cannot let any man, woman, relative or otherwise to enter the home unless she knows that the husband does not dislike that person. Sharh Saheeh Muslim.
• If the woman knows that her husband is okay with the person, there is no harm from inviting them in, according to al-Nawawi, Fath al-Baari, vol. 8, p. 296.

5.  Serving the Husband

• She must serve him in bringing up the children, preparing the food, taking care of the clothes, etc.
• It is narrated from Asmaa bint Abu Bakr al-Siddeeq that she said, “I used to serve al-Zubair ibn al-Awwaam - her hsuband - concerning all of the matters within the house. He used to have a horse that I used to take care of and give it its fodder.  I would feed the horse and draw water for it.” She would also sew the waterbucket and prepare the dough. She used to carry the dates upon her head from [al-Zubair’s] land which was about two miles away from her house. Sahih al-Bukhari 5224, Sahih Muslim 2182.
• The husband is not free from all of the house hold chores. It is better if the husband can assist his wife when she needs his service. It shows good character of the husband and is also due in part with dealing with his wife in a kind and good manner.
• The Messenger of Allah (saw) performed some chores in order to help his wives. Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said, when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allah (saw) used to do in the house, “He would help his wife - meaning serve his wife- but when the time for prayer came, he would leave to the prayer.” al-Bukhari, 676, Book on the Call to Prayer.

6.  Protecting His Honour, Children, and Wealth

• The wife must protect her chastity and be careful about hurting the honour and her reputation of not only herself, but her family as well. She shouldn’t do anything lacking in religiousness or modesty. She should be careful about displaying her beauty to anyone other than those who can see her.
• She should protect her husband with respect by raising the children in a good way and teaching them good characteristics and manners. She should not be a spend thrift. She should only buy what is needed, not what is wanted.
• The Prophet (saw) praised the women of the Quraish. He said about them, “They are the most merciful (ahnaah) to the child when he is young and the most tending to the husband with respect to what he owns.” al-Bukhari, 5082, Book on Marriage.

7.  Being Thankful to the Husband, Not Denying His Virtues, and Treating Him in a Good Manner

• The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.”  It was asked,“Do they disbelieve in Allah (or are they ungrateful to Allah?)” He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favours and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” Bukhari, Book 1, Volume 2, Hadith 28.
• Not only is being ungrateful to your husband a disgrace, but it is a huge sign of disrespect and disobedience to the one who is supporting and providing the family.

May Allah (swt) make us all pious and generous women to our (future) husband.

salafi-saurusrexie:

1.  Having the Right to Enjoy One Another

• “It is permissible for you to have sexual intercourse with your wives during the nights of [days of] fasting. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.”  Surah al-Baqarah ayah 187.
• The wife is a source of comfort for her husband and he her’s.
• “And of His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.” Surah al-Room ayah 21.

2.  Establishing the Rights of Inheritance Between the Spouses

• If the marriage contract is completed properly and one of the spouses dies before his or her spouse while still married, the right of inheritance is established between them.
• “And for you is half of what your wives leave if they have no child. But if they have a child, for you is one fourth of what they leave, after any bequest they have made or debt.  And for them is one fourth if you leave no child. But if you leave a child, then for them is an eighth of what you leave, after any bequest you made or debt.” Surah al-Nisaa ayah 12.

3.  Treating Each Other in a Good and Kind Manner.

4.  Establishing the Forbiddance of Marriage to Relatives

• It is forbidden for the husband to marry the mother of the wife, grandmother, great grandmother, etc.  He cannot marry her daughter, granddaughter, etc.  It is forbidden for him to be married to both his wife and to her sister, paternal aunt, maternal aunt, or niece. This also works the same way for the wife.

mohamed-ashraf:

The eyeball has an anterior-posterior length of 24 mm. It’s well designed so that light entering your eye through your cornea falls exactly on your retina for you to see clearly.

Any slight change in that length of the eye will result in an ‘error of refraction’, either myopia (short sighted) or hypermetropia (long sighted) at which point you have to wear corrective lenses which will have a negative or a positive power.

The -1 or +2.5 that your optometrist might tell you is a measurement of the power of the corrective lens (measured in Diopters) 

The amazing part lies in the precision. It only needs a one millimeter change in the eye’s length to give u an error of 3 Diopters. That means if your glasses are -1, that’s only a third of a millimeter change in your eye’s length. Sub7anAllah..

“We will show them Our signs in the horizons and within themselves until it becomes clear to them that it is the truth.” (Quran 41:53)

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[Reported by at-Tirmidhee from Amr ibn al-Aas - Hasan.]